Mom Is Down and Out: The Things I Learned After My Surgery

I recently had surgery, a surgery I've needed but put off for 2 years. I'm a mom of 3, a wife, small business owner and nurse. How in the world did I have time to recover from surgery? My husband had been telling me for years to just get it over with. My answer to him, "who will go to the grocery, who will wash the clothes? Who will cook supper and clean the house? For Pete's sake, who will wipe the little butts in this house?!"  Well, here I am, 2 weeks post op and healing up nicely with a list of things I've learned along the way.

1. Delegate the chores

First off, my kids have chores, lots of them. But little did I know, they are capable of so much more than I gave them credit for. My 14 year old had never washed a load of laundry or loaded the dishwasher before. I'm generally pretty controlling when it comes to those two things. Yes, the laundry hasn't been sorted or the dishwasher loaded efficiently, but it's done! I have no idea what temperature anything is being washed on or if the spin cycle is correct, but laundry you don't do yourself smells so sweet!
My 10 year old can now scramble eggs for breakfast by himself. He can also whip up some pretty tasty spaghetti, which I see us having a lot more often in our future!

2. Learn to Relax

I've heard of binge watching TV, but it's a foreign concept to me. My television is stuck on Nickelodeon or the Disney channel from 7 am to 9 pm ever day for years. I remember a time when I had a slew of must-watch TV. I also remember a time when my boobs defied gravity, but then came children and out went free time. I have watched more TV in the last 2 weeks than in the past 10 years. And you know what, they were right, binge watching whole seasons is amazing! I know TV rots the brain, but while it's rotting, I declare Netflix for President!

3. Ask for HELP

The third thing I've learned is asking for help is hard, but needed. Why do we women feel so guilty when we can't do everything ourselves? I was told I can't bend, strain, or lift over 8 pounds for 6 weeks. 6 weeks! Which means I can't even pour myself a glass of tea when the pitcher is full! My exact words to my discharge nurse were, "this is ridiculous." You know what else is ridiculous, seeing yourself trying to pick up dirty laundry off the floor with your toes. And even more ridiculous, the pain you feel when your body tells you you're doing too much.
So, after talking myself off a cliff, I started asking for help.  Turns out, asking for help is not ridiculous,  in fact, I could get used to this. Quick, someone bring me a bell! I will ring when you are needed!

4. Give Up the Control- It's All an Illusion Anyway

Some might say I'm a person who likes to be in control. I take no insult in this, I am who I am. But, when you are in bed unable to control all the things around you, being a control freak causes nothing but anxiety. I found a couple things to help ease my mind and anxiety during this time. First off, my essential oils. If I didn't love them before, I do now! Lavender and frankincense running in my diffuser helps keep me calm and relaxed while roman chamomile has helped me sleep. Another thing that has helped me are those adult coloring books that seem to be trendy right now. Nothing like coloring in the lines to help you feel in control!

5. The Internet is Magical

Alright, my last epiphany while recovering; online grocery shopping. This is almost as ingenious as Netflix. Amazon will not only deliver my 20 pound bag of cat food to my door, they will do it for free! Same goes for paper goods, groceries, heck, even wine if you want! And remember clipping coupons? Put your scissors away. They show you all the coupons for your items without you having to look for them. With the push of a button you save! I don't know why it took me having surgery to figure out how awesome this is. It may have taken an abdominal incision to get me to this point but I won't go back to Wal-Mart without a fight!
There you go, my list of hopefully helpful things I've learned while recovering.
So, for all the super awesome, super busy moms out there, take care of yourself so you can go back to taking care of everyone else. 
~Holly 
PS: This is a quick note from Tiffany, I would just like to point out that I have been ordering groceries and pet food off the internet for years. My methods have been met with some teasing and perhaps some eye rolls.....HOWEVER- I am so glad that Holly has now found the glory that is Amazon Prime! 
Scars and Stretch Marks Cream made with Essential Oils As soon as Holly gets the okay from her surgeon- she is going to use the S&S Cream on her scar.  We have had some awesome feedback from people about making their scars much less visible.  Just make sure you get the okay from your doctor first before you get your incision wet or apply anything to it!


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